Dating 20 years older than me
”Myles, who recounted the incident during a recent phone call, groans.
“You want to put a stake through the guy’s heart.”Myles, 66, has been romantically involved with a number of women a few decades her junior.
Everybody’s cool with women dating up, so long as the older person they’re dating is a man.
Take Emma Stone, Scarlett Johansson, and Jennifer Lawrence’s entire careers.
According to 2014 data compiled by the Williams Institute, 31% of married same-sex female couples have a 5- to 10-year age difference, compared to 21% of married different-sex couples; for 10-plus years, those numbers are 16% and 8%, respectively. While naysayers insist that relationships like Holland Taylor and Sarah Paulson’s don't make them uncomfortable for an explicitly gay reason, significant age differences between lesbians aren’t actually divorced from their queerness at all — these differences are a nontraditional aspect of coupledom borne from queerness itself.
Women who date significantly up or significantly down radically subvert heteronormative standards for what’s appropriate when it comes to sex and love.
In the newly released season two of Transparent, there's another distinctly Myles-like older dyke poet character (Myles and Transparent's creator, Jill Soloway, are currently dating), who, when hanging around with a younger woman, deals with an awkward Is-that-your-girlfriend-or-your-daughter mixup.
M, a 30-year-old living in Los Angeles with her partner, T, who’s 19 years older, says they also receive some scrutiny when they’re out in public.