He updated his dating profile
I just can't seem to understand his intentions behind it, and it'd be so much easier for me to accept if I knew he was doing it as an ego boost or something. If Trump is elected, though, I will offer my basement to those fleeing the country for an acceptable price, until you find something more suitable. What I'm about to say is intended to be delivered in the most honest, constructive way possible. There's a very fine line between being a “cool” girlfriend and being a doormat. Not only is your man walking all over you, but he's proudly wiping his filthy feet on your baseless generosity every time his selfish, inconsiderate finger lands on the app, when it could and should be pleasuring you. My point is that my friend — who was doing the same thing as your man, only on a more discrete level — has cheated, so I'm pretty inclined to believe your guy has done the same, emotionally and/or physically. That was your first mistake — a mistake that opened a gateway to other questionable behavior.
However, taking it offline after one amazing date with a seemingly amazing person is not such a great idea.
Are sacrificing your own confidence to give him an undeserved ego boost? Because your man wants his cake, and he wants to eat it too. He has you as his constant, loving wifey, all while casually perusing the veritable landscape of potential mates on Tinder. We collectively romanticize the idea of “the one” when seeking romance, but the truth of the matter is, there are many compatible mates out there for all of us. Since you two are talking marriage when you're more financially stable, I'd like to think you deserve that same respect.
What you're doing gives him opportunity to find another one of those people. His reasons might not be as sinister as I'm making it out to be, and I hope they're not. To Not a Trump Fan, While your political instincts are sharp and need no seasoning, your social intuition may very well benefit from some touching up.
If this sounds familiar, then it’s critical to find the cause of this fear.
Resolving this internal conflict is step one because if you’re not comfortable talking to them about big “issues,” then it’s definitely too soon to even have the conversation in the first place.