There are some conversations that change your life.If a doctor has ever diagnosed you with genital herpes, you may remember that discussion as one of them.
Society often puts out the message that people with herpes are dirty or somehow flawed. The fact that someone has herpes says nothing about them other than that they were exposed to a virus. The first thing you need to do after you've received a genital herpes diagnosis is sit down and take a breath. Do some research and learn all you can about the disease.Know how herpes is transmitted and how you can reduce the risk of giving it to your partner.If you have been together for a while, recommend that your partner be tested for the virus.If you are starting a new relationship, testing is still a good idea.Because condoms aren't 100% protective against herpes, there is always the possibility that you will pass the disease onto your sexual partners.Consistently using male or female condoms and other barriers for all sexual contact, including oral, anal, vaginal, and manual sex, will greatly reduce the risk of transmission. These medications lower the amount of virus in your system.However, both you and your partner should remember that you can transmit the virus even if you don't have any symptoms.Genital herpes can be transmitted even in the absence of symptoms. In fact, it was probably how you became infected with the disease. Therefore, your partner may not have known that he or she was putting you at risk.When you are first diagnosed with genital herpes, you may want to find someone to blame. If, however, you are in a relationship with a person who knew that he or she was infected with the herpes virus and lied to you about it, that's a different story.Telling your partner you have genital herpes may be one of the hardest things about living with herpes.Whether you have been together for years, or you're just starting out, the conversation will be difficult. Start by being comfortable with the information yourself.